Pathways to Impulsive Behavior and the Cycle of Sin

I’ve noted in previous posts that there is a clear connection between impulsivity and addiction. In their article on genetic factors related to impulse control, authors Florence Cormier, Julia Muellner, and Jean-Christophe Corvol note that, “According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the main characteristic of impulse control disorders (ICD) is the inability to resist an impulsion, tendency or temptation to perform an act that harms oneself or others. Many of the diagnostic criteria for ICD are shared with substance use disorder.” Like addiction, impulsivity also … [Read more...]

Is it ever Good to be Impulsive?

Although in most cases from a Christian perspective, impulsivity needs to be kept in check, there is such a thing as a good kind of impulsivity. We see such “blessed impulsiveness” in the Apostle Peter and in the other Apostles who left their nets to follow Christ. There was no careful weighing the proposition or slowness to move, but instead a ready, cheerful, almost instantaneous wholehearted obedience. “They did not delay, they did not procrastinate, they did not say, ‘Let’s return home and talk about it with our relatives,’ but ‘they forsook all and followed,’ even as Elisha did to Elijah. … [Read more...]

The Fathers’ Response to the Three Kinds of Impulsivity

In our ever-changing, fast-paced contemporary world that rewards Type-A aggressive behavior and a results-oriented lifestyle, impulsivity can become our default mode for interacting with the world.  This “ready-fire-aim” approach to life can be framed as quick reflexes and speedy adaptation needed for success and getting ahead. Of course, if one’s gut reactions are wrong, that same approach can be one’s ruin. Impulsivity, however, is not just about being an active, carpe-diem sort of person.  Acting on the spur of the moment is only one of the measures of impulsivity used by psychologists. … [Read more...]

Impulsivity, Addiction, and the Passions

It should come as no surprise to those familiar with individuals struggling with addiction that impulsivity is a core issue. In technical terms, there is a certain fundamental correlation between addiction and impulsivity. People who are impulsive are more vulnerable to developing addictive behavior, because they give little regard to adverse consequences (Impulse Control Disorders and Co-Occurring Disorders, Potenza, p. 51) or to be more precise, they prefer immediate reinforcers to delayed ones, instant gratification to long-term satisfaction. Being impulsive means acting without … [Read more...]

Introducing a New Series on Impulsivity

There is something to be said about impulsivity being a particularly contemporary problem. The more control we appear to gain over so many technical aspects of modern life, the less control we seem to have over ourselves. An “I-want-what-I-want-when-I-want-it” disposition towards life governs not only the actions and reactions of infants, but also the behavior of the developmentally more mature. Today’s marketing campaigns certainly encourage such thinking and modern technology provides ample space for practice in acting on impulse to such a degree that it can become the default mode for … [Read more...]

What is the Purpose of Sadness in Grief?

In my introductory post on grief, I wrote that grief “is an utterly human experience filled with emotions that has no correlative. It is not depression. It isn’t sadness. It’s not anxiety. It isn’t melancholy. Yet, it may present itself to the world with these faces and others as well.” That being said, it would be somewhat odd if we experienced grief without sadness as a constitutive element. Such sadness often makes us uncomfortable. After all, we are taught from an earlier age that we are to be happy and to pursue happiness as an unalienable right at all costs. Such a goal leaves little … [Read more...]

Grief and Scripture: “The entrance of Thy words giveth light” (Psalm 118:130 LXX)

In grief, we are sometimes at a complete loss for words to describe the pain we feel and the emptiness we experience. And yet, putting words on our experience enables us get a handle on it, so that we are not subject to it, but it becomes subject to us. Unfortunately, we sometimes do not have the energy or the clarity to find the words we need to bring some order to our disorder and some peace to our unrest. This is where “remedies derived from Scripture” (John Chrysostom, Commentary on Ephesians 21, PG 62.152) can be of great use, taking us on a journey through our own anguish and leading us … [Read more...]

Too Late to Say What Needed to Be Said ?

There are times when a loved one dies unexpectedly or suddenly and important things are left unsaid or undone. Even worse, relationships may be injured by disagreements and conflicts that were not resolved before the untimely departure of our friend or next-of-kin. Either of these scenarios can exacerbate the grief we experienced and leave us feeling not only guilty and full of regrets, but also helpless in terms of anything that can now be done that could anyway alter the situation. In such cases, some psychologists suggest composing a letter to the departed in which we express all the … [Read more...]

Grief and a Smile?

When we are grieved by a loss, we often assume that the only emotions to be felt and expressed are negative ones such as sadness, despondency, and helplessness.  We may even tell ourselves that such an emotional state is commensurate with the depth of our loss.  In some cultures, the expression of negative emotions, through weeping and wearing black, are seen as ways of revealing the love and respect held for the deceased. And while the fathers understand the need to weep and express feelings of sadness, they also indicate that Christians in the throes grief are called, as impossible as it may … [Read more...]

Acceptance and Grief

After a loved one dies, those who grieve often ruminate about what they or others could have done differently to prevent the death or at least postpone the loss. “If only I had seen the signs and brought my wife to a doctor sooner…”, “If only I had kept him from driving there yesterday…”, and countless other variations of the basic idea “If only the past were different, I would not be suffering in this present.” Such responses are a normal part of the grieving process, but at some point we do need to accept reality as is and appropriate it into our life. In her dissertation on grief, … [Read more...]