Accepting the Paradox of Trying to Fall Sleep in order to Go to Sleep

From an early age, we are taught that we will be judged by our successes and failures. We are encouraged to study hard, make good friends, be polite, and take care of our health. All of these counsels are designed with one goal in mind: our success in life. When we fail, it is quite often assumed that failure occurred because we didn’t try hard enough or study diligently enough. We are made to believe that there is a one-to-one causal relationship between our effort and our success. However, we soon find out that life is much more complicated than that. Sometimes, there are paradoxical factors … [Read more...]

Type A Behavior and Self-Criticizing Thoughts: Problem and Potential

Self-critical thoughts comprise a two-edged sword that can either lead to self-correction for the sake of a healthier lifestyle or to a deep, morose despondency that envelops the person and all those surrounding with a stagnant gloom. Those thoughts can be a positive force for those striving for perfection, but a negative influence on those who accept them as proof of incompetence, unworthiness, and unloveability. In the case of those with a Type A behavioral style, we encounter a third amalgam that combines both the positive force and the negative influence together. For Type A go-getters, … [Read more...]

Type A Behavior and the Need for Control

In the previous posts on Type A behavior pattern (TABP), I’ve written about the outward behaviors characteristic of this pattern. In this post, I will examine one of the principal factors related to TABP: the need for control. In his doctoral dissertation, “Cognitive Behavioral Treatment of Type A Behavior,” the author notes, “Overall, type A individuals exhibit achievement-striving, hostility, competitiveness, and time urgency in an attempt to exert control over events they cannot control (Bingham & Hailey, 1989; Koivula & Hassmen, 1998; Prkachin & Harvey, 1988; Rosenman, 1978; … [Read more...]